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Such a shame you didn’t have anyone with children involved in this podcast… You missed out a whole other point of view! Interesting points but I have to say I do feel very sorry for your friend garance, who was clearly suffering from a lot of anxiety around being a mother. Have you ever stopped and thought that instead of talking about her behind her back you could have helped her and been a better friend?

Interesting discussion, but I’m curious why you would not include anyone with kids to get their side of the story. A bit of a disappointment in that regard.

I was really excited to listen to this one. I’ve thought a lot about kids and the impact they have on friendships, both before I had my own and after! It’s a really interesting topic and I figured you would have some funny discussions and also a focus on supporting each other. But I actually found it really disappointing and possibly a bit patronising for parents (I’m sure you didn’t mean it that way). Looking forward to hearing a more thoughtful discussion next time.

Omg I do not recognize myself in those mums nor those “friends” you are portraying! As a cool ( I think ) single mum of a now 15 year old boy, I can tell you that motherhood can be held without pressure. A baby is just someone new entering your life. I have made the choice to bring my kid everywhere, parties,travels sometimes even on my work place where he enjoyed being my assistant for a day ! . As a matter of fact, I have always enjoyed the company of people without kid so much . When I couldn’t take care of him he would go to friends house for the night . No,mum’s world does not only evolve around their kid , or their anxiety about not being what society is expecting from them . Too bad there was no mums there to balance the conversation! On the other hand I totally relate to the fact that you get sollicitations all the time for this pregnancy,that new born baby, this wedding and so on … so much that I think I am going to open a menopause list ;-) so I can get a chance to benefit from my colleague generosity??

wow this is was the topic i was waiting for so long, but just to find out is the same old SATC paranoia. We all have been single, enjoying the new adventure of adulthood. The new job, or promotion, or new apartment etc and we are all supouse to celebrate that even though some are going throug hard times.
I appreciated the raw feeling, we all have it. We sometimes have go to birthday parties even thouht we are broke or we are super tired, or because we are saving for something special for us. We are always compromising in life regarding frendship demands.
But when it comes to mariage and kids suddenly you all felt the need to compare your life to parents life. It desappointed me the way how you conducted the conversation. We dont have to compare or impose our perspective of life on others.
For exemple when you are going to something new in life, that in a way is challenging, you call to a friend for advise even though they never experienced something simillar. Why patronizing a group of people that choose to have kids and there for had to adjust to new reality? just because you dindt have the same experience (yet) you are still part of their lifes as a friend.
Does any one demand more time to a friend just because they spent family time with their father because you dont have a father figure in your life? does anyone demand more partytime to someone who have plans sometimes with their brothers because you are a only child? if not, why you should do it when they have kids and you dont?
Has a new mom, i felt that friends tend to demand extra effort just to prove they matter to me. They do, they always will matter to me (to us parents). I’m am the one who perhaps needs an extra hand on how to handle this new thing called motherhood.