Let's Talk About
PDA
9 years ago by
Time to lay down some serious truths.
Public displays of affection (aka PDA) is not always okay. We’ve been talking about it in the studio, and we’ve all decided that there are different levels — and it also depends on the context. Making out on a subway? Probably not ideal. Holding hands? Most of us are fine with it.
But, I guess the big question we have for you is: how much is too much?
We really want to hear your opinion on this. And where is not fine for PDA?
We’re immediately going to proclaim planes and any other intimate spaces (elevators! friend’s dinner table!) as PDA-free zones from hereon…
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Even if I am not always happy to be confronted with pda I am very happy to live in a country where we are free to show our love.
Hear, hear!!!
Yep, I agree. Since we have a border with Turkey… as I woman I feel blessed every day where on earth I was born. Also, my circle of friends and clients are all married with kids, so I find any PDA among them endearing :).
Haha! I always see people on the subway who are really into each other, and I think kissing in public is fine, just not full-on making out and groping each other. There’s a difference between smiling and sharing a few kisses on the subway and making out all over the place. It honestly depends on the discretion of the people who are doing the pda.
For me, my PDA levels are based on the things I think I should keep private. Really intimate moments are best kept private. But if you’re in love and sweet about it, I don’t mind!
-Helena
http://helenagaultier.co
Je prends le métro tous les matins, peu importe l’heure, c’est toujours bondé, donc j’apprécierai BEAUCOUP que le couple à côté de moi arrête de se murmurer des mots doux que je peux parfaitement comprendre.
I proclaim beach, they get carried away to quickly.
Too much is when you know , you both should be getting a room.
Apart from that I am so cool with PDA
http://www.distinguisheddiva.com/2015/07/see-you-in-greece.html
Let people be in love.
I moved from India. Very happy to live in a country where showing love is not reserved for the bedroom.
PDA is okay .
I used to live in India as well… Just walking beside my boyfriend made everyone stare at us. Yuk. I was so relieved to move back to Europe after that!
Yeah agreed, It’s ok to a point. When people are smooching for a long time in front of others, it can feel like it’s for show, and immature. Plus if there are sound effects–it’s annoying.
Sound effects! NOOOO!!
I think there are levels to PDA and each country and culture have different levels of what’s acceptable. Personally hand holding and some kissing is fine. Interesting post. Like it!
Les DAP pour moi c’est un non. J’ai un copain et je ne montre aucune affection en public, ça tombe bien parce que lui aussi n’est pas ça. Je ne sens pas le besoin de montrer à tout le monde que je suis avec cet homme ou quoi se soit. Je suis très discrète lorsqu’il s’agit de ma vie privée… :) Alors je ne vous raconte pas que mon affection public n’a pas lieu, par contre lorsqu’on est dans notre intimité c’est autre chose ahah!
French kissing , please don’t!!
Je trouve que les démonstrations de tendresse sont très rarement malvenues : se tenir la main, mettre la tête sur l’épaule de l’autre, s’enlacer…
Là où effectivement ça peut être gênant c’est quand ça devient une démonstration de tension sexuelle, genre gros patin et pelotage. C’est à peu près la nuance entre dire en public “je t’aime” et “j’ai bien envie de te baiser là tout de suite”.
French kissing, please DO DO DO DO !!!!!!!!!!!!! Sinon a quoi servirait Georges Brassens et sa chanson “les amoureux qui ‘s bécotent sur les bancs publics’ ???? Marre du politiquement correct ! Facebook, twitter, instagram c’est pire qu’un bisou, qu’un baiser dans la rue !!!!
Je suis TELLEMENT d’accord ! Rien de pire que ça, surtout quand on est soi-même célibataire…
http://www.pardonmyobsession.com/
All ways better to see two making out than two squeezing each others zits…. Ewww!!! sooooo gross!!! (And don’t tell me you don’t have see those types around, specially in the subway.) Ewwww!!!! like we say in spanish…Fo!!! que asco!!!
WTF?! Who DOES this? I’ve never seen that on the metro before but I can’t imagine doing that in private, let alone in public. My man and I have agreed there are some boundaries we won’t cross -grooming each other and using the bathroom in front of each other. There has to be some mystery left!
Affection is different from lust. The first, heartwarming. The second should be private. Get a room.
Yes, this!
Also, when a couple is together with only one more person, don’t. They might already be feeling like a third wheel.
as long as you’re not tonguing each other (which I’ve witnessed) i think couples can be really cute when they’re into each other. i’m pretty touchy feely, but my line is drawn when things become remotely sexualized… there are safe areas to keep your hands and mouths, so keep it that way!
http://www.beccawaterloo.blogspot.com
yuuuuuh… moi j’aime pas les contacts, je déteste les gens qui me touchent l’épaule quand ils me disent bonjour ou qui me prennent dans leur bras pour un oui ou pour un non… Je pense que je me sentirais mal aux USA… J’ai l’impression que les français sont plus réservés et plus pudiques que les américains, beaucoup plus tactiles et friendly. En un sens je trouve ça mieux : je peux pas m’empêcher de penser que tout ce déballage d’affection, de love, de xoxo, de hug et compagnie sent un peu l’hypocrisie, ou le forcé. Ne pas trop en faire, c’est élégant.
I think kissing and hugging is not just right, its sometimes enviable! after these signs of affection, everything after that is uncomfortable for others.
Hey, what’s wrong with you guys?
I am glad to live in a country where PDA (really, this acronym… makes it sound like a disease) is possible, even if I don’t make out on the bus.
Let people be… You don’t have to look…
And what about all this very American talk of love, hugs, kisses, xoxoxo etc.? Isn’t this a tad hypocrite if you are all for PDA-free zones?
Oh, and there ARE countries where you get stared at, harassed by the police, arrested and whatnot for just sitting together…
i’m a DAP allergic
Je trouve ça très mal venu de dire “olalala l’horreur, surtout quand on est célibataire”, ou encore “quand je suis dans le métro bondé j’aimerais que le couple à côté de moi ne se chuchote rien”. Bien sûr qu’il y a une retenue à avoir dans un lieu public, je suis la première à le dire, l’intime sexualisé n’est pas censé être montré. Mais merde, laissez donc les gens s’aimer ! Qu’est-ce que c’est que cette frustration ? Un baiser n’a jamais tué personne, ça ne veut en aucun dire “je marque mon territoire” en général, c’est juste une marque d’affection qu’on ne peut pas retenir. Je trouve ça d’un triste de dire non aux marques d’affection en public. Que ce soit entre couple, entre amis, entre famille… Le quotidien est suffisamment épuisant pour se frustrer à la vue de la moindre joie, même si elle ne nous concerne pas.
I think holding hands while walking (just the two of you) and a quick kiss here & there is fine in public. I am not a big fan of friends constantly touching each other while we are hanging out (there’s a place and a time for that… not now) and it REALLY bothers me when couples constantly kiss and make out in a public place. Especially in a restaurant when you want to enjoy your food and company, and all you hear are the sounds from the couple at the table next to you basically starting their foreplay…
That being said, I am still more of the PDA type that my partner. He sometimes wants to hold hands but is not a kisser in public.
Laissons les gens vivre, et comme d’autres commentaires l’ont souligné plus haut, soyons reconnaissant de vivre dans un endroit où se rouler une pelle en public est possible ! J’ai peut-être déjà vu des choses dont j’aurais pu me passer, mais je préfère ça que l’inverse =)