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« And I don’t have to pretend like it’s no big deal that someone is ripping out my pubes by the roots while we chat. »

Love.

Reading that first line with a Seinfeld voice–uncomfortable.

I agree. I took it all off for my first serious boyfriend. He really liked it. But I felt like a girl, not a woman. After that, I went for the same approach you’re now taking. Now I’m keeping it trimmed, but letting it all grow out over the winter to see how I feel about it. My husband doesn’t care what I do. We’ve been together for 13 years and he thinks I’m sexy no matter what (which is pretty damn amazing).

First of all, let me tell you how liberating it feels to be able to talk about pubic hair in public! Secondly, I have to confess I’m one of these girls that still shave, never waxed never laser’d! I’ve kept the same style since I was 18 – big patch of hair with everything else nicely shaved. I usually don’t let my boyfriends have any opinion on the matter exactly because the great majority would be « shave everything!!!!) and tbh I’ve never had a problem in the past with it, which means boys don’t really pay as much attention as we think (like with most things….)

I’ve been with my husband for 10 years and the down there region has seen a variety of seasons of well groomed, well cared for and flat out forgotten about. Although a Brazilian has always been well received in the past, he never has asked for it or complained when it’s not there. If I’m happy and aroused and sexual, I don’t think he has time to even think about it! I’ve settled on keeping it trim and a clean bikini wax semi regularly. And if I’m wanting to make it a bit more special, I’ll do a more dramatic French bikini. After pushing two babes out from down there I can’t bring myself to have to endure the pain of a Brazilian. I’m happy and my wallet is happy to let it go. And well, there are other ways to keep him happy.

Good topic…I’ll never go all the way. I’m a woman, there’s supposed to be hair down there!

It’s no one’s business what you do with your pubes, as long as they’re tidy. I’ve received compliments from guys who are sick of being in bed with women trying to look like small children.

This isn’t SFW, but some of you might enjoy reading Whores of Yore and their essay on how pubic hair fashions have changed throughout millennia: http://www.thewhoresofyore.com/kates-journal/hair-today-gone-tomorrow-getting-to-the-roots-of-pubic-hair
(You can follow them on Twitter at @WhoresofYore, too)

I unfortunately overflow quite a bit on the sides which can get uncomfortable in the summer (or winter). So, my basic rule is to take off what would peak out of standard underwear or swimsuit. Otherwise, just keep everything trim. But it’s always for my comfort and has never been to please a guy. (Shaving my legs though is for both me and them though. I like the smoothness of it all but at the same time I don’t panic if I’m with a guy and haven’t shaved in a while. I’ve never been rejected for sex for unshaven legs.)

I’ve never gone full Brazilian and I have had several men practically praise me for keeping it natural as they were sick of girls going bare. And well, the praise turned into increased passion so there’s that.

I grew up in Italy in the 90s and early 2000s: although having a well-groomed bikini line was considered a must, Brazilians were a taboo or something girls wouldn’t even consider (I remember my boyfriend at the time, who liked porn a bit too much honestly, asked me to wax it all off and I was disgusted… I even had half-thoughts he might like early-teenage girls a bit too much… No wonders we broke up).
When I moved to Belgium I had a cultural shock when I discovered that basically every girl and man were shaving it all off. I started doing that too, in my year as a single, but always hated the itch due to re-growth (and honestly took me a while to get used to look like – as you said – a 12 year old girl). I then passed to Brazilian waxing when I started dating my current boyfriend (and started trusting a Belgian beautician LOL), and honestly I love the perfect smooth feeling and the low maintenance. I alternate it with periods of longer hairs (simply because I need to find the time to go wax again :p) but I always keep the area groomed. My boyfriend is super nice with everything related to my body, he says as long as I like it or feel comfortable he likes it too. He never really expressed preference for any of the « looks » (although I asked him many times, because it would make it so much easier to decide if I should spend those 50 bucks at the salon or not :p).
I think next I’ll try the Brazilian with the landing strip or the triangle although I have the feeling it requires a bit more maintenance than the all-off style.

(LOL I love to talk about this, it’s a frequent topic with my girlfriends too!)

xx Al

More or less same experience. I got crazy about Brazilian, which I must say I liked a lot mostly for sexual sensation, mine not only his ;-). Now I keep half Brazilian, nicely trimmed bigger patch in front and rest zero hair. This is how I like it. As for the guys they truly don’t care but sometimes are crazy about the bushy style hahaha!

I wax but not completely. I always did and haven’t changed my pubic hair for any boyfriend or for my husband. He prefers it completely bald but you know…he is a guy…

Je suis d’accord avec toi, je trouve que le 0 poil fait trop prépubère, ça me gêne. Le poil va avec le développement des hormones et de la sexualité. Je suis une enfant, je n’ai pas de poils. Je suis une ado, j’ai un début de poils. Je suis une femme, j’ai des poils pubiens. Ca va avec une belle poitrine, des hanches, une sensualité féminine. J’aime être femme et recevoir pleinement ma féminité.

Alors je ne suis pas habituée au « sur-poil », c’est à dire aucune épilation mais je fais du classique années 70 : aisselles et bas des jambes épilés, et petit triangle pubien. Il ne faut pas que les poils sortent du maillot, enfin je trouve ça vilain. J’adore les corps des films roses des années 70, la forme des seins, les poils pubiens, pour moi c’est sensuel.

Les poils peuvent aussi faire partie du plaisir. Tirer doucement ou même un peu plus fort sur les poils pubiens est un excitant. Je l’avais ressenti et je l’ai lu il y a pas longtemps mais je ne sais plus où.
Mon mec : je fais comme je veux, ça ne l’empêche pas de venir dire bonjour à mon sexe. C’est je pense un problème qu’on se créent nous les femmes, et que rencontrent les jeunes hommes avec peu d’expérience de sexualité.

I stopped with full brazlian about a year ago and it was the best idea. The comfort, no ingrown hair, … I like to have it trimmed and shaved on sides.

EVERY guy I slept with was super positive about it. I mean, not only they respected it, they mostly said they like it more than completely shaved. That I look like a woman, not a plastic toy. So, girls, try it, you might be surprised. .)

I, being of an older generation, (almost 50), cannot believe any man would want a woman bald down there! So they like the idea of sleeping with a pre-pubescent? Do these men shave themselves too, for women to sleep with little boys? Or is it only men who are into this paedo look? I can’t get away from the twisted psychology of it! Also, I can’t believe they would find bumps, ingrowns and shaving burn more attractive than pubic hair…where will it end? Any man I’ve ever slept with was happy to be having sex, never mind what shape the hair was in! As a post-baby friend of mine once said, when I asked her what it was like sleeping with a new boyfriend for the first time with her ‘baby body’: ‘Once they’re kissing you and obviously want to take your clothes off, it’s not like they’re going to stop once they realise ‘oh my god she’s got stretch marks and a caesarean scar!’ I would think ditto with pubic hair….

Full bush per REQUEST of my boyfriend! I was horrified at first, as while I never went bare, I always shaved and trimmed the length. He says he loves the softness of a full bush and wants me to be as natural as possible. So now I just keep the bikini lines smooth and the rest au natural. The only negative is that I am paranoid about odor getting trapped in the hair. I keep a cute, decorative canister of fragrance-free baby wipes for sensitive skin in the bathroom for an « every time you go » freshening up!

Any time I’ve read that hair removal on women looks pre-pubescent I think of how different women’s genitalia can look. A larger labia does not look pre-pubescent shaved. Not everyone has the same looking labia. Not everyone’s labia looks the same at 40 as it did at 10! Some women have hair growing ALL over and choose to remove everything but the hair on top the pubis bone; that’s what I do. Your anatomy could dictate your choices, as much as your personal aesthetic does.

I’ve never waxed largely because I can’t stand the idea of a stranger ripping out all my pubic hair…there’s no way I could endure the AWKWARD. The funny thing is…I used to feel kind of self conscious about not having a Brazilian…but the longer I thought about it the more I just got annoyed with the whole thing…its so ridiculous that women feel any pressure to groom themselves in any particular way when men (for the most part) don’t give it a second thought. So I bought a hair removal cream to keep the bikini line nice and neat and then I quit worrying about it. I also started buying swim suit bottoms that with retro-style low cut legs. I like them better (cute and quirky) and if I’ve been a little lax about using the hair removal cream, you totally can’t tell. LIBERATING not to have to think about the bikini line before a day at the beach. I can just grab my suit and go!

Neatly trimmed, that’s it! Had a discussion about this at work and was horrified to hear two co workers had had all hair permanently removed. Jeeze, creepy.

I have been getting a full Brazilian (or Hollywood how it is known here in the UK) since I’ve been 13 years old. It is something that I do every month and to be honest I wouldn’t like it any other way. I personally don’t like the feeling of having any pubic hair so I am really considering to get laser hair removal in the near future. I’ve never had anyone complaining about the amount of hair present, or absent for that matter, but I have to say that I have been recently asked by a partner whether I would consider leaving a little bit of hair down there…Apparently it’s becoming fashionable again to leave some pubic hair and not wax/shave it all off. Regardless of trends the decision to wax it all off is entirely mine and what everyone decides to do with their intimate regions should be each one’s personal decision

Can we please mention how degrading can feel to lie down – bare naked down there – with a stranger staring at your vagina and asking if you are dating anyone, given the full bush you’ve grown?
Got me regretting the brazilian straight away, why would I put myself through something like that?

It’s like the Kardashian’s asses, LOVE that someone is making curves great again despite the body standards in fashion, but when you think about it, the reason why they get surgery done is purely sexual, and it’s not the way I want to decide of my body :)

These comments are all so interesting and not what I expected! I guess I’m in the minority, here. Like pretty much all of you, my grooming is for ME, not for my husband. But I like a full wax. It’s smooth and soft and silky. I’ve never felt the « pre-pubescent » connection that it sounds like other women feel when they look at a bare vag. I remove the hair from my legs and armpits, too, but that has never made me feel as though I look like a child. To me, it’s empowering. It’s beautiful and I’m not going to hide it! (No offense to team bush. You do you!)

I’ve never been into full waxing. I’ve tried what we call « le ticket de métro » (a narrow rectangle) maybe three times, but always found it annoying to keep (also, hair growing back itch). So for 7 or 8 years now it’s wild & natural. I love the touch (and the smell, sorry if TMI). Boyfriend never said anything. Every 2 years or so, I trim them. Oh and last year, I’ve done some laser on the thighs to make bikini wearing a nonthinker. Happy with it. The less the better.

Buy a bikini trimmer, never look back:

https://www.amazon.com/Remington-WPG4020C-Bikini-Grooming-Removal/dp/B00BB5YI0Q/ref=zg_bs_13270000011_8?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=WZ0DTEBH29G724Y6G4F1

Also, I have found the man who is super concerned about hairlessness to fall directly into a category of general assholes with other terrible traits that are not worth your time. We all have our grooming preferences (I like a trim on both myself and him so you can get to the good parts more easly) but it’s up to the individual. Our bodies our choice on both sides of this issue. Anyone who says otherwise has got to go.

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